I've lived across the street from a family since I moved to my home 5 years ago. They are good people and good neighbors with 2 teen boys. The younger boy is around 12 or 13 and is a typical kid who likes to run around and play airsoft and ride his bike. The older son is 19 and obviously mentally challenged. He is over 6' and lanky, but walks with his head down and shoulders stooped. He walks around his yard and on the street for hours looking for shiny objects. I've waved to him several times but got no response. He will occasionally throw temper tantrums and you can hear him yelling and screaming 3 houses down. My next door neighbor told me when I first moved in that the family were good, honest people but that the older boy was mentally challenged but harmless. I've helped the father a few times while working on vehicles and yesterday he came over and helped me with the brakes on my Suburban. I felt that I built up enough of a friendship that I asked him gently if his older son was developmentally challenged. I wanted to start the conversation because I've volunteered for groups that work with mentally and physically disabled people and was interested to see what group has been working with his son and maybe I could volunteer. The response I got was totally unexpected... The father said he wasn't challenged in any way and was just a slow learner. In fact, he's very smart but learns at his own pace. The father also said he's trying to get his son to sign up for the Air Force but he hasn't taken the ASVAB yet. The father is in total denial about the reality of his son's condition. He went on to tell me that the school district kept encouraging him to sign the boy up for SSI before he turned 18 or else it would cost a bunch of money in lawyers once he's an adult. The school also put him in special education and he had to re-take his senior year even in that program. That tells me that professionals have recognized this kid needs some help and have reached out to the father and he has rejected it. I admire the father for his obvious love for his child and his willingness to have the kid live as normal as a life as possible, but I wonder what harm is being done in that the kid is not getting all the treatment and therapy he obviously needs. Now, it's obviously none of my business and I won't judge the father either way or interfere with the raising of their son. Just wondering what the GT perspective was on the situation; are the father's actions doing more harm than good? Or is he doing the right thing?