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How would you handle this, part 3.

Discussion in 'Cop Talk' started by clancy, Aug 15, 2011.

  1. clancy


    Feb 16, 2011
    Some of you may remember my 2 previous postings concerning the harassment calls by my ex-wife to the NYS police. We are in the middle of a custody battle that seems to be getting nastier by the day. Friday night, at about 2:30am I, as well as all my neighbors in the cul-de-sac I live in were woken by the flashing lights of a patrol car, and the pounding on my door of a trooper. Needless to say, my dogs and my neighbors dogs were quite vocal. There were 2 troopers, in 2 cars. The female trooper, despite the request of the male trooper with her, refused to turn of her lights. I gues I should add that the male trooper was here on 4 previous occasions when my ex made BS calls, so he had a pretty good idea what was going on, but was there to do his job. My ex had called to report that my son had called about 1am, crying and telling her I was drunk and he was scared. She accused me fo grabbing the phone and hanging up and refusing to answer it when she called back. They had me wake my son up so they could question him, and as you have already guessed, he said he never called. The male trooper was apologetic, saying he hoped we understood he was just doing his job, and, while I wasn't happy about another visit, I realize he has to do what he has to do. The female trooper, who had never been there before, well let's just say she had quite the attitude, and didn't seem to care that she woke up all my neighbors. I am just glad the male trooper was with her, because I really think she could have made a good situation very bad. She wanted to cuff me and have me sit on the kitchen floor while all this was going on, and it took the other trooper a good 5 minutes to get her to agree to not to. They got into quite a heated argument at one point. This makes the 18th time the police have been called by my ex since december of 2010, over nothing. It is also the first time I have had a negative attitude from one of the troopers called here.

    To add insult to injury, Child Protective Services is doing another investigation on me, the 4th in 6 months. According to the "anonymous" call, I have been allowing my son to go unsupervised with his .22 rifle and shoot in our backyard. This time the CPS investigator has offered to testify on my behalf in family court, because of the harassing charges and what she fears is the emotional damage my ex is doing to our son.

    My ex is going for a court ordered mental health evaluation(so am I, it is standard procedure). I wish I could be a fly on the wall at that meeting.
  2. Gangrel


    Oct 12, 2007
    Our PD has a "chronic caller" policy where we stop responding to stuff like that. Too bad those troopers don't, I guess.

  3. A buddy of mine went through a similar situation a few years back. BS calls to the local PD, where most of the coppers knew the situation, understood where the "EX" wife was coming from and went through the motions when dispatched to residence. The "EX" would even go to the local precinct, file BS complaints against "hubby" where she would be routinely "escorted" from the station house. He just had to "go with the flow" and document / notify his attorney after each "accusation".

    Eventually, he was granted "full custody" of the children by the court, he was allowed to keep the primary residence and SHE was ordered to pay child support for all three children. It wasn't exactly what SHE was hoping for, but the court realized the game she was playing and ruled accordingly. The "EX" apparently though that the more complaints / accusations she made against "hubby", the more it would make her look better in court. It turns out that she was sadly mistaken.

    The only ones who truly suffered were the children and still do to this day, due to the actions of their mother. All I can say is "just keep doing what your doing" and let the facts play out. I wish you well and hope that your children don't suffer irreparable harm from this ordeal.
  4. Sam Spade

    Sam Spade Staff Member Lifetime Member

    May 4, 2003
    It's about time for an injunction. Past time. And an investigation into false reporting, or whatever your state calls it. The involvement of your son, his denials, and the observations of the troopers take it out of "he said/she said".
  5. In WV I'd charge her with making a false child abuse report. I would think NY would have a similar statute, but perhaps not.
  6. razdog76

    razdog76 Heavy Mettle

    Sep 26, 2007
    Get copies of all reports involving you, ex, and your residence. Obtain a Civil Protection Order, which will get her arrested fairly quickly for continued harassment.
  7. Big House

    Big House Biggest member

    Sep 22, 2009
    Clancy, do you have an attorney? I'm going to guess that you do. If so, what does that blood sucking leach have to say? If your attorney hasn't made a suggestion by now, fire that person. If you have no idea what attorney to use, ask an officer who they would use, chances are they've used or know of the best divorce/custody attorney. DO NOT PRICE SHOP! Get the best that you can afford.

    You're going to go through this only once, hopefully, and you damn sure don't want anyone that talks the talk but doesn't walk the walk.

    When I went through this 13 years ago, I asked an officer that I knew who had been through one or two divorce/custody battles, and thats what they are, battles. I made an appointment with his suggestion and I got the house/my children, one adopted, and child support. The judge asked if I needed any alimony. I declined.
  8. merlynusn


    Nov 16, 2007
    The important thing is it is documented again.

    I do have to say that typically when we clear a call, we just do a regular little paragraph statement in the computer saying how we cleared it (if it doesn't involve a report).

    However, with all these incidents, I'd be past doing that and doing a non criminal miscellaneous incident full report. That way it is easier to see the documentation. Obviously you need to consult with your attorney. If your attorney isn't trying to do something about all this harassment, then yeah, get a new one.
  9. Mayhem like Me

    Mayhem like Me Semper Paratus

    Mar 13, 2001
    Not a chance
    Opening the door is voluntary, I 'm a cop and I would have stopped after the first time I would tell them from behimd a closed door to contact my lawyer I have nothing to say and if they had probable cause to come back with a search warrant otherwise please leave my property.

    Enough is enough any real lawyer would have put a stop to this after the 3rd time and charges would have been filed against the wife by now for any one of a number of possible misuse or fabrication statutes.

    Oh yeah and call in a complaint on the lady trooper she is obviously sexist and will only cause problems the longer she is on the job for the men that work around her.
    Last edited: Aug 16, 2011
  10. Hollywood D

    Hollywood D

    Jun 10, 2006
    I'm surprised the PD hasn't done something, i.e. false reporting charges as mentioned earlier. I would really push for that next time they show up.

    I've charged people for false reporting for doing it one time, let alone 18. Plus, no supervisor here would be putting up with that many calls for service on complaints that are all BS.
  11. txleapd

    txleapd Hook 'Em Up

    Aug 27, 2004
    I would have written her for false report after one time. Repeated calls would have led to abuse of 911.
  12. PuroMexicano

    PuroMexicano VIVA MEXICO !!!

    Jan 28, 2004
    Monterrey, Mexico
    With all due respect, I think your lawyer sucks.

    Your ex should be in jail by now; and yourself with sole custody of your kid.
  13. Mayhem like Me

    Mayhem like Me Semper Paratus

    Mar 13, 2001
    Not a chance
    How do you really feel.

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  14. Quote from SWAT:

    "Oh yeah and call in a complaint on the lady trooper she is obviously sexist and will only cause problems the longer she is on the job for the men that work around her."

    He beat me to it. I would get a name with NYSP and write a letter.
  15. Mayhem like Me

    Mayhem like Me Semper Paratus

    Mar 13, 2001
    Not a chance
    I have already diagnosed your wife if what you say is true she is a Sociopath and probably a narcissist and will probably wrap the court Doc around her finger because well the ones working for the state don't have the best creds....
  16. razdog76

    razdog76 Heavy Mettle

    Sep 26, 2007
    Out of curiosity, how can the court compel a mental health examination?

    Seems like it would be much easier to prove who can provide the best living arrangement, rather than who is loopy.
  17. Mayhem like Me

    Mayhem like Me Semper Paratus

    Mar 13, 2001
    Not a chance
    Most of the time it's a condition of the divorce in most states where kids are involved. And its mostly worthless

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  18. Hedo1


    Oct 1, 2007
    SE Pennsylvania
    You need to get your lawyer involved and get this shut down asap.
  19. Cochese

    Cochese Most mackinest CLM

    Jun 30, 2004
    Unmarked Rustbox
    Have her killed. It's the only way.
  20. Sam Spade

    Sam Spade Staff Member Lifetime Member

    May 4, 2003
    Hey, just noticed your sig line....You know Sonny, or someone else associated to the flick?