[NeverMore1701]

Originally Posted by IQof1

you can always just "borrow" some kids from the local playground. their parents will really appreciate the time off they get from the little heathens......errrrr i mean tykes.

You wouldn't believe the mountain of paperwork I had to wade through to move this close to an elementary school after the last time I did that....

[IQof1]

Originally Posted by devildog2067

It's not, she's remarried.



Well, put it this way: I don't think my kids would have had a place to live if I hadn't been paying child support. She's on her fifth new car in 7 years and she doesn't work, so I'm pretty sure my dollars get spent on more than just the kids' immediate needs, but what can you do?

maybe drop more money on a lawyer and get your kids? i dont know your life circumstances so im really just asking, not being a smartass about it.

i had to go thru a BRUTAL, (i mean eye gougingly where you cringe when you hear it pop brutal) child custody case.

my lawyer ripped her apart on the stand, so much so that, when i got on the stand, swore in, answered who i was, where i worked etc...

her lawyer asked for a recess and she gave in. my lawyer totally nuked her lousy ass and i had a petty feeling of happiness about it, still do to a point after all the schit she did to my kid.

i dropped about $10k on that plus another 3-4k i didnt have. money well spent IMO.

[Kingarthurhk]

Originally Posted by oldgraywolf

The problem is that simply having children isn't a guarantee of self improvement. It's not hard to find people who should never, ever have become parents. I'd think you've seen plenty of that in your line of work.

No, but it is is supposed to. You are right. Some people shouldn't own a gold fish let alone have a child.

[Kingarthurhk]

Originally Posted by umadcuzimstylin

Marriage is a religious ceremony, I'm Buddhist and we don't have marriage.

I can't help but notice you live in Texas. If you are co-habitating Texas says you're common-law married.

[Kingarthurhk]

Originally Posted by Chesafreak

The problem with adopting is that unless you adopt a baby, adopted children usually come with emotional baggage that can range from mild to severe and you just never know what you're going to get.

While going through foster parenting/adoption classes, we (my ex and I) met families that were almost torn apart, and in one case the man was arrested. In the case of the arrest, the family took in a girl who had been sexually abused. She came on to the man and when he declined her advances, she falsely accused him of molesting her. He was presumed guilty. He eventually beat the charges but not before it cost him his reputation and almost cost him his marriage.

I adopted a one year old boy. I can tell you that the waiting list can be very long for a baby unless you spend a lot of money and get one from outside the US.

There are horror stories, sure. But, I have seen more positives than negatives from people who have. It is only the negative ones that make the news; because, afterall that is all the news really wants to report.

[boxer01]

Originally Posted by NeverMore1701

Enrich the lives of random ass holes on Internet forums.

[Lone Wolf8634]

Originally Posted by Kingarthurhk

Then I would suggest you do things as a couple that are selfless and help others so you don't become self centered and conceited. Having children, makes you share more of yourself.

I'm gonna leave that pile alone.

My marriage is gasping its last, dying breaths. And thats a good thing, we kept it on life support for far to long. Caused a lot of misery and heartache that wasn't necessary.

I won't say I'll never do it again, but the odds are low and the lady would have to be very special. And the marital situation would be very different than this time.

[NeverMore1701]

Originally Posted by Kingarthurhk

I can't help but notice you live in Texas. If you are co-habitating Texas says you're common-law married.

No. Just.... No.

[devildog2067]

Originally Posted by IQof1

maybe drop more money on a lawyer and get your kids?

It's not that simple.

[Kingarthurhk]

Originally Posted by NeverMore1701

Enrich the lives of random ass holes on Internet forums.

So far it is full of fail.

[Glock30Eric]

tagged. I am going for a divorce in this summer. We simply cannot live together. It is going to be a peace divorce, "no fault' divorce like that.

[NeverMore1701]

Originally Posted by Kingarthurhk

So far it is full of fail.

Sorry bromigo, maybe I can get to you tomorrow. Why don't you hold your breath and see?

[Annhl8rX]

I was interested in this discussion until I saw that a Tom Leykis opinion was being taken seriously.

[IQof1]

Originally Posted by Glock30Eric

tagged. I am going for a divorce in this summer. We simply cannot live together. It is going to be a peace divorce, "no fault' divorce like that.

Until you get to the table.......I suggest a back-up plan and be ready for anything.

[Woofie]

Originally Posted by Annhl8rX

I was interested in this discussion until I saw that a Tom Leykis opinion was being taken seriously.

I always like it when Leykis comes up in GNG. Lots of woman haters here who like to take dating advice from the guy who's been arrested for domestic abuse.

[SPIN2010]

Originally Posted by devildog2067

Same is true of child support imposed on the mother... and this is coming from a guy that pays $25k a year in child support to a woman who hasn't had a job in 10 years.

It is funny how when you get a good paying job your support goes up the first check but when you lose a job it takes six to nine months to get an adjustment hearing. Moral to the story: Never marry a local .GOV official. Ugh!

I feel your pain and commend you for hanging in there ... thirty six years here (17 + 19). I know it has been tough for me but I only have ninety-four days left to go.

I really thought the space rock was going to get me, I am on death watch after that last payment.

[jsg34]

I'm in. I love a good train wreck.

[Pecos Bill 1911]

I haven't listened to Tom Leykis in years, so does he still promote "Flash Friday"? I was once a first-hand witness to a topless gal getting mobbed in a parking lot in Tempe, AZ on Flash Friday - There was like 50+ cars and a dozen cops!

Best Wishes! Pecos Bill out.

[F350]

Originally Posted by DustyJacket

Still working on my forst marriage - they will never be a second one.

That's what I said after #1; went 18 years before meeting this one. I tell people if she were any easier to get along with I'd have to be gay 'cause she'd be another man.

[glock1911revolver]

I am never getting married. I don't hate women by any means, but I don't see any advantage to marriage for me.

Of course I might reconsider if I find a sugar-mama who is seeking a trophy husband.

[M1a65]

80k, 4 motorcycles, 1/2 my 401k, 40% of my retirement, a Ford Expedition, $1500 month for child support/alimony for 6 years, 19k lawyers fee's. Yeah, I'll be doing that again soon... DAting a Ballerina now and she know's if she wants a ring best to look else where. Been going smooth the last 2 years and I plan on keeping it that way.

[MB-G26]

Originally Posted by NeverMore1701

Enrich the lives of random ass holes on Internet forums.

[Green_Manelishi]

Originally Posted by Kurly

As some of you know, I went through a brief marriage that cost me an inordinate amount of money for the time we were together and a huge amount of emotional regret/grief.

I need to ask if your decision to marry was made by your big head, or your little head.

[Kevin108]

I am married, but I understand well that men stand to lose so much while women only stand to gain.

[Kingarthurhk]

Originally Posted by NeverMore1701

No. Just.... No.

According to the law, just yes. Read up on it some time.