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Old 04-29-2011, 23:02   #1
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Old 04-29-2011, 23:47   #2
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Old 05-01-2011, 17:23   #3
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Sounds to me like you have life by the balls. I'd get a dog and maybe once a month hire an escort. You might have to pony up some cash for her but there will not be any drama and she can't take all you own.
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Try hooking up with a church's singles group or something.
No one should have to go through life alone.

I am sorry your wife is a piece of fecal matter.
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Old 05-06-2011, 10:28   #5
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Try hooking up with a church's singles group or something.
No one should have to go through life alone.

I am sorry your wife is a piece of fecal matter.
My church doesn't have a singles group. Everyone is married and guys like me are SOL.
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Old 05-06-2011, 12:51   #6
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Sounds to me like you have life by the balls. I'd get a dog and maybe once a month hire an escort. You might have to pony up some cash for her but there will not be any drama and she can't take all you own.
Excellent advice!
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Old 05-24-2011, 07:04   #7
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I'm sorry about your ex. I'd have a really hard time with that- My kids are the best thing in my life. If you haven't, you might consider talking with someone professionally, even though it's been a while. My trust would be shot, and it would take me some work to figure out how not to carry that into my next relationship.

Now, while there may be an element of "be careful what you wish for" from us married guys who aren't as foot-loose and fancy-free anymore, and need permission to spend our own money ;-) the fact is you're lonely and looking for some companionship. To me, you don't get that from an escort- That would just make me *more* depressed to have to pay for it! lol

For whatever its worth (free relationship advice on a gun board... You get what you pay for! ;-)

Step one is just meeting people. Get out, do things you like doing. If all you like doing is sitting at home, it'll be more challenging. But even quieter, "introverted" activities have clubs- Gardening clubs, book clubs, reading clubs, church, etc. Look for ways you can meet people doing what you like to do. You like to shoot? Join a gun club- Don't just go to a public range by yourself. Hiking? Outdoor club. Whatever you like doing, there's a group of people who share your interests. Except moping at home. No club for that, because no one really *enjoys* doing that. So you have to find the "activation energy" to take the first steps.

Also, remember that networking can be your best route to a relationship. Friends set up single friends with each other, if they know they are potentially interested. So don't neglect making friends with a guy or gal just because they are married. (Note: It helps to make friends with the *couple* or the *guy.* Go around trying to make friends with married women when their hubbies aren't around, and that can lead to all sorts of other problems.)

Focus on the friendships and activities you enjoy, and the other things will follow. If you do ignore your married friends, now you have to do all the looking yourself- Think of married friends as all your wing-men, extra eyes and ears out there roaming the world on your behalf. One of your best assets in this can be a friend's wife who is a *teensy* bit busy-body-ish, but in a well-meaning way... If you score someone like that working for you, you're set! She'll find you leads in no time. ;-)

Worst case, you don't feel like you've been "wasting time" looking, because you haven't been "wasting" it, you've been having fun, right?

Good luck!!
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Old 05-30-2011, 07:12   #8
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Old 05-30-2011, 07:17   #9
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Good Luck ...everyone has their stories....good advice has been posted above..hang in there.
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Old 05-30-2011, 07:22   #10
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Thanks for the good advice.

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I'm sorry about your ex. I'd have a really hard time with that- My kids are the best thing in my life. If you haven't, you might consider talking with someone professionally, even though it's been a while. My trust would be shot, and it would take me some work to figure out how not to carry that into my next relationship.

Now, while there may be an element of "be careful what you wish for" from us married guys who aren't as foot-loose and fancy-free anymore, and need permission to spend our own money ;-) the fact is you're lonely and looking for some companionship. To me, you don't get that from an escort- That would just make me *more* depressed to have to pay for it! lol

For whatever its worth (free relationship advice on a gun board... You get what you pay for! ;-)

Step one is just meeting people. Get out, do things you like doing. If all you like doing is sitting at home, it'll be more challenging. But even quieter, "introverted" activities have clubs- Gardening clubs, book clubs, reading clubs, church, etc. Look for ways you can meet people doing what you like to do. You like to shoot? Join a gun club- Don't just go to a public range by yourself. Hiking? Outdoor club. Whatever you like doing, there's a group of people who share your interests. Except moping at home. No club for that, because no one really *enjoys* doing that. So you have to find the "activation energy" to take the first steps.

Also, remember that networking can be your best route to a relationship. Friends set up single friends with each other, if they know they are potentially interested. So don't neglect making friends with a guy or gal just because they are married. (Note: It helps to make friends with the *couple* or the *guy.* Go around trying to make friends with married women when their hubbies aren't around, and that can lead to all sorts of other problems.)

Focus on the friendships and activities you enjoy, and the other things will follow. If you do ignore your married friends, now you have to do all the looking yourself- Think of married friends as all your wing-men, extra eyes and ears out there roaming the world on your behalf. One of your best assets in this can be a friend's wife who is a *teensy* bit busy-body-ish, but in a well-meaning way... If you score someone like that working for you, you're set! She'll find you leads in no time. ;-)

Worst case, you don't feel like you've been "wasting time" looking, because you haven't been "wasting" it, you've been having fun, right?

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Old 05-30-2011, 08:19   #11
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I feel your pain, Bro. I've been single since 1993. It seems like all the good ones are married and the ones that aren't married........well........it usually doesn't take long to see why they aren't married.
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Old 06-03-2011, 16:47   #13
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Okay, I can kinda see how at 55, you're "out of practice" and there's slim pickins. But good God man, since 1984? You were in your 30s, how did you waste all those years?
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Okay, I can kinda see how at 55, you're "out of practice" and there's slim pickins. But good God man, since 1984? You were in your 30s, how did you waste all those years?

He said he hasn't been in the company of a "woman" since 1984.
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He said he hasn't been in the company of a "woman" since 1984.
Maybe?
No I am not a homosexual. I cannot remember being in the company of a woman due to my traumatic brain injury on 18Jun08. My memory loss is from April 75 to July 08. It is coming back slowly, and seeing familiar sights brings back some memories. But God has wiped out all memories of my ex-wife (1977-1984) and my golddigging ex-girlfriend (Dec 05-Apr 06) and all other meetings with women. He did it for a good reason, I'm sure.
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No I am not a homosexual. I cannot remember being in the company of a woman due to my traumatic brain injury on 18Jun08. My memory loss is from April 75 to July 08. It is coming back slowly, and seeing familiar sights brings back some memories. But God has wiped out all memories of my ex-wife (1977-1984) and my golddigging ex-girlfriend (Dec 05-Apr 06) and all other meetings with women. He did it for a good reason, I'm sure.
Wow- That's...

33 *years* you can't remember? My God...

Which raises the next question- What in the heck do you write about?
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Wow- That's...

33 *years* you can't remember? My God...

Which raises the next question- What in the heck do you write about?
I consider the 33 years on hold until some future date. What will help will be to go to all of the same shooting matches around New England that I used to go to. Like at Nenamasake, MA tomorrow morning. BTW, I am writing about what has happened to me since getting out of the hospital in Aug08.
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Old 06-10-2011, 16:57   #18
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God did that to you did he? I would consider conversion after that.. But to answer your question, try the internet. Plenty of fish, match, etc, lots of people meet online. Get into some social groups and mention you're single and looking. Maybe a friend can hook you up on a date. I'm serious about the internet, lots of people who don't "get out" much turn to it to mingle. Good luck.
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No I am not a homosexual. I cannot remember being in the company of a woman due to my traumatic brain injury on 18Jun08. My memory loss is from April 75 to July 08. It is coming back slowly, and seeing familiar sights brings back some memories. But God has wiped out all memories of my ex-wife (1977-1984) and my golddigging ex-girlfriend (Dec 05-Apr 06) and all other meetings with women. He did it for a good reason, I'm sure.
Not to sound harsh to your situation, but GAWD I wish I could forget some of the women from my past.
I am 48, divorced twice, and now, having the best years of my life. Lonliness is purely a state of mind, not a state of being. I speak from experience. Hang in there, some one will come along, they always do, usually when you least expect it, so stay open minded and open hearted to the possibilities.
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I was married from 1977-84, and my ex-wife took our two kids and ran away. I haven't been in the company of a woman since 1984. Here I am in rural VT wondering if I am to be alone forever. I am 6'0" and 230 pounds at age 55. I am a published author.
I seem to remember several posts about a woman you referred to as a gold digger and pasted her name and city all over the internet.

Perhaps that is why women avoid you.
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That's tough. There isn't much that is worse then loneliness.

The posters have some good ideas for help. You really should get a dog to carry you through the bad times. They can love you too.
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I was married from 1977-84, and my ex-wife took our two kids and ran away. I haven't been in the company of a woman since 1984. Here I am in rural VT wondering if I am to be alone forever. I am 6'0" and 230 pounds at age 55. I am a published author.

Not to sound like an ass,.......

But 1984 was a lomg flippin time ago. I've been cheated on by ex-wives.
1st was while deployed to Desert Storm, second was during the Bosnia Conflict.

I could have easily stuck my head in the sand. Stand the F up
like a Man and deal with it. Either get your azsz off the couch and
meet people, or get to a doctor and get treatment. The road you
have been on, and are traveling down, is headed no where.

Only YOU can Quit feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it!
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If I were you I would try online dating. I understand you live in a rural area. Are there any towns or citys nearby? You could try plentyoffish.com or okcupid.com. I would avoid match.com. Even if you aren't looking for a wife, you could still find someone worth meeting occasionally for dinner or coffee and conversation.

Hows your personal appearance? Do you look like you have given up on life? I suggest (if you are able) getting yourself in shape and losing some weight (if you need to). In addition to making yourself more attractive to the wimmins, it will help with self esteem and depression. Also people will notice that you look better and are happier and more confident and may just know someone that they are willing to hook you up with.

If you can find an escort in a nearby city, it may be a good way to get your groove back instead of having to do so by trial and error after you meet someone.

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What part of VT are you in? Im in VT, too. I've got friends from the Morrisville/Stowe area on down to the Middlebury/Rutland area who attend church, shoot, brew beer and mead, and get together periodically just to visit or have a meal. If you want to get in touch and meet some new people, let me know. It would definitely broaden your exposure and increase the likelihood of you meeting someone.

I'm married, with three kids and one grandkid. I love my wife dearly. She's my best friend. I can't imagine being without her. My heart goes out to you. Even if you don't get in touch, I hope you find someone with whom you can hit-it-off and begin to develop a decent relationship.

Good Luck, and don't give up.
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.......... I haven't been in the company of a woman since 1984. ...........
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........ and my golddigging ex-girlfriend (Dec 05-Apr 06) and all other meetings with women. .........
So which is it? And you seemed to remember your EX-GF quite a bit for a while, you were slamming her all over the internet.
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