I recently picked up an XDm Compact in 9mm.
I have a 3rd and a 4th gen 19........my wife grabbed up my 4th gen a few years back declaring it hers, and I let her keep it as her carry/Jeep gun because she shot it so well.
Last weekend we were in the hills shooting, and had the 4th gen and XDm C. out at the same time, both of us shooting them side by side.
Well, she now has the XDm C. as her carry/Jeep gun and the 4th gen. is back in my safe.
We both observed recoil to be about identical, but she shot much tighter groups with the XDm...the trigger difference was a non-issue for her.
Anything that sparks or creates an interest in shooting I let her have. I can always get another one.
I like the Glock trigger better......but like the natural pointability of the XDm C. better.
Can't lose with either, imo.