Its normal to be distraught under those circumstances. There's no magic wand to wave and make it better. There are things you can do that make it worse though, such as using drugs or alcohol or going into denial or shutting off emotionally. You just have to be strong and work it out without doing anything to make it worse like so many people get trapped doing. It sucks but that's about it, you gotta deal with it sooner or later and try to do it in a healthy way. I'd suggest vigorous physical exercise or hard physical labor as outlets for some of the emotions. Regards.
The Tao that can be spoken is not the eternal Tao -first sentence in the Tao Te Ching