My first marriage was pretty much like what guys descibed at the article at the first link the OP provided. I won't bore you and sob and dump on all of you but I can say it was the worst of those stories combined.
I have remarried to a woman who is the complete opposite of the ex. In addition to being a wonderful woman in every way, she even has her own money and we don't combine our finances.
Things are great, but financially I'm climbing out of a deep hole created by the ex-wife. All I can say that if this one doesn't work out I will never marry again.