My goal with all 3 of my kids is make them independent and confident you MF'ers. My oldest could actually survive on her own and she's 15. My 13 yr old is getting there.
At 21, I was self sufficient. Despite my parents. Their attitude was, "well, go figure it out." To this day, at 44, I despise new things because I've gotten so many new things wrong b/c of a lack of help. So I try and help my kids without doing it for them. Walk WITH them through stuff so they get it. Then encourage them afterwards.
My kids are gonna OWN this world in 10-15 years.
Because it seems the "helicopter parent" syndrome runs well into the 20's and sometimes 30's.