I get told I'm "scary looking" or "mean looking" all the time, but it's actually worked in my favor most times. You have the same syndrome, it's called "command presence", and people are remotely intimitated by that.
Feel for you dude, get the hell outta CA, might do you some good, personally and professionally.
Found something you can wear to make you less than what you are
Have a great gun carryin' Kenpo day