Recoil is a very individual thing.
My experience is just the opposite of the OP. I notice much less felt recoil with my Sig 226 and 229 in .40 than I do with all .40 caliber Gen 3 and older Glocks. The Gen 4 Glock 22 is the only exception.
My Gen 4 gun has about the same felt recoil as the Sigs. That's noticeably less felt recoil over ay Gen 3 or older Glock .40 that I've ever fired. (Noticeable to me that is. Some people like the OP say differently.)
None of the recoil from any of the guns is anywhere near excessive though. They all shoot fine but they all handle different.
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