That's the way it is. You are a man. Learn to take such mess like a man. The folks with the flashing lights come with a mindset already in place. You are a suspect until they decide otherwise. Words to the contrary are just words to the contrary... even if offered by the one with the blood, etc. Maybe sometimes warranted. But sometimes... no all the time.
"People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people."